A coworker was talking about a book she read, which is titled something like "What Your House Says About You." One section of the book, she says, encourages you to role-play and pretend that you're the house talking, and then pretend that your house is talking to you. That's not the kind of book I'm much interested in reading, but the premise kind of intrigues me. My house has a lot to say to me. My house has a lot of complaints.
My house wants to know why I haven't planted shrubs out front like I said I would. It wants to know why there are maple trees growing in the gutter. It's unhappy that the previous owner put 1970s decking on a 1929 farmhouse, and it wants to know why, in the 14 years that we've lived here, we haven't taken it off. It's wondering if I noticed there are a couple of places on the clapboards that need to be sanded and primed and painted before the cold weather sets in. It says it would feel better if I gave the windows a good washing - a really good washing, the kind that involves a ladder and lifting the old-fashioned wooden window frames off the hinges. And while I've got the window frames off, maybe I could give them a fresh coat of paint? And that's just for starters, on the outside.
Inside, the litany of complaints continues. In fact, I think my house is no longer complaining. It's whining. Why are your kids such slobs? Why do they leave a trail of food and clothing wherever they go? Why, no matter how many times you do laundry, are there still piles of laundry all over the place? Why does the dog shed? Why do the cats shed? Why haven't you painted the kitchen cupboards? Are you ever going to paint your bedroom?
And here's what really upsets me! my house says, and it's no longer whining. It's sobbing. Why do you have so much stuff? Where did it come from? What are you going to do with it? I can't stand it! And I saw you this morning (snuffle, snuffle - my house is wiping its nose) and you were looking at the garage sale ads, and I know you're going out to buy more, aren't you? Aren't you? (My house is now hysterical.)
Oh, house. Poor, poor house. I'm sorry. You know what? I'm feeling the same way. (I'm patting the house affectionately right now.) I went to the thrift store yesterday, and all I could think was yuck. I don't want to look at this stuff. And I know, I was looking at the yard sale ads, but I don't know if I'm going. I can't imagine anything I really want to buy. I'm kind of at my limit.
You remember how I spent last weekend? (The house weakly nods its head, which I guess is, I don't know, the roof?) Upstairs in the attic, sorting through all that stuff I bought? And thinking about why I bought it, and what I'm going to do with it, and where to keep it? (More nodding.) Well, I really have to give that some thought. Because I'm feeling weighed down by it, too.
So I guess this would be the part where my house and I embrace, except I have my limits when it comes to role-playing.
But that is how I've been feeling. Too much chaos. Time to get it under control. I'll be interested to see how long this lasts, and where it takes me.